What would you do if you were in this position:
Exams are around the corner. You have a smart and intelligent child, but he is very playful and would do anything else BUT study. You know that even without studying he can pass, but with a "not-too-good" grade. However, you know that if you push him, he can come out tops. Would you push?
This is the position I am in. My son, N, is very playful. A smart, intelligent boy that simply hates to study. Pushing him would involve a lot of shouting, sitting next to him with the cane, and a deterioration in the mother and son relationship.
I am really concerned about this deterioration in our relationship, so this time round, I decided again that I would not push him. As expected, he came back with not fantastic grades, but he passed. Not the worst in class, but we know he can do better than what he got. Hubby is concerned. I know that if I sit him down and go through his work with him, he can excel. This has happened for the last 2 years where I left him to study by himself for the mid-year exam and he came back with unimpressive grades, and when I sat down with him to work for the year end exams , he topped his class for every single paper. But because he did not do so well at the mid term, he ended up not being a prize winner.
But he simply hates it when I sit down with him and go through his work!! And I dont want to push it. I dont want so much unpleasantness to be associated with studying!! I want him to grow up and realise for himself the need to study and do well for himself.
However, he doesnt seem concerned about his grades. He keeps saying he did better than the worst person in class. But why compare with the worst, when he is capable of being the best?
So how? Should I be kiasu or not?