tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post3565754852726327901..comments2023-04-13T20:41:17.952+08:00Comments on Secret Diary of a Stay-at-home Mum: To push or not to push?stay-at-home mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04977522411804549074noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-30257268860844372422008-05-19T10:24:00.000+08:002008-05-19T10:24:00.000+08:00SAHM,Recognize the children's learning preferences...SAHM,<BR/><BR/>Recognize the children's learning preferences is basically what the book is all about. <BR/><BR/>My daughter prefers to study alone with books strewn everywhere and music blaring. Believe me, it used to drive me crazy. It was sort of hurting my pride that I really did not raise her that way! But, I have to settle with it - that's the way she learns.<BR/><BR/>My son prefers to study in group, with friends at my house or in library. Believe me, it also drives me crazy. To the least, I need to prepare some food and drinks after the study, or who would sweetly call you "Auntie"? And I have to drop him at library and fetch him later!<BR/><BR/>The book ends with this -<BR/><BR/>It's never been more important to help our children succeed in a world that is often difficult to understand.It can make a difference with your children if you will devote time and energy to discovering the way they learn.Yanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01469410555556500811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-40525210108863254952008-05-18T14:23:00.000+08:002008-05-18T14:23:00.000+08:00sei lor.....i so dread this! I know No.1 is very d...sei lor.....<BR/><BR/>i so dread this! I know No.1 is very distracted!!!<BR/><BR/>i wish u had an answer for me.....<BR/><BR/>ahahahahahaah!<BR/><BR/>mottTripleJinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07714039969156625846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-7961576099809768752008-05-18T14:06:00.000+08:002008-05-18T14:06:00.000+08:00Thanks YanWill let you know if I can find the book...Thanks Yan<BR/>Will let you know if I can find the book - when i get the chance to visit the bookshops!<BR/><BR/>Hi Ling<BR/>He sure feels the stress when I am right next to him, esp when he is not concentrating - which is like all the time. Coz as soon as i turn my back, he is climbing the bookshelf, or kicking some non existent ball!<BR/><BR/>Hi Constance<BR/>Glad you found the way here. School is so stressful in singapore. I wish they would really let the children enjoy childhood.<BR/><BR/>hi bp<BR/>Tried "bribing" him, but like you said, doesnt always work. Also, like you, i dont like to tie rewards to everything. Very soon they will be black mailing me for soemthing for everything that they do!!.<BR/><BR/>Hi Jo-N,<BR/>I really dont know how to make studying fun for them!! For the young ones, I can, but come to a stage, studying is studying, and I feel they have to be responsible for it themselves! If you have ideas pls share.stay-at-home mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04977522411804549074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-78249663993819226202008-05-17T17:56:00.000+08:002008-05-17T17:56:00.000+08:00I am no expert - but I do borrow a lot of wisdom f...I am no expert - but I do borrow a lot of wisdom from others. <BR/><BR/>Get hold of this book -<BR/><BR/>The way they learn<BR/>How to discover and teach to your child's strengths<BR/>by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias<BR/><BR/>It's a focus on the family book.<BR/><BR/>If you can't find it by now (published in 1994), drop me a note, I'll see what I can do.Yanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01469410555556500811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-91817725661297467422008-05-15T08:45:00.000+08:002008-05-15T08:45:00.000+08:00hmm...if you dont push him, he will still be able ...hmm...if you dont push him, he will still be able to pass his exams right? only not top the class, right?<BR/>does he feel any stress if you push him? if he does, then I prefer not to push.Mommy Lose Weighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02114939638666358977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-49212134482141843872008-05-15T07:18:00.000+08:002008-05-15T07:18:00.000+08:00heyyyy thanks for the heads up on yr secret diary....heyyyy thanks for the heads up on yr secret diary...hahahah so glad you are back.<BR/><BR/>and thank you for the mother's day wish too. hope yrs was wonderful.<BR/><BR/>my eldest also needed pushing.. her grades aren't fantastic either. her mandarin is getting worst this mid year exam.. i learnt malay in school so i have to rely on her tuition teacher to guide her. last year she could still get band 1 but this year is dropping. sigh. <BR/><BR/>i have been sitting next to her few times a week for maths revision and worksheet. cos her maths were just borderline. as a mummy, am stressed cos she has been going remedials for her maths in school. how stressful school is. i worry she may have to start remedial after school break this june. that will mean she has tight schedules daily.Constance Chanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13739664214560750176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-2679167761183689792008-05-15T06:39:00.000+08:002008-05-15T06:39:00.000+08:00SAHM, I can identify with you on this! My elder b...SAHM, I can identify with you on this! My elder boy is like this, and it drives me crazy when he is so super distracted, and like N, he too thinks it's OK so long as he's not the worst. <BR/><BR/>We've tried encouraging him with little "incentives" here and there... doesn't always work, but sometimes it does. Only thing is I don't really like to make everything out to be reward-oriented. Probably you've done the same, so I fully understand your position.bphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16539652855795741315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-2591596118049925052008-05-14T21:37:00.000+08:002008-05-14T21:37:00.000+08:00A dilemma, isn't it? Well, I think you can make le...A dilemma, isn't it? Well, I think you can make learning fun and you won't be blaming yourself for not pushing him and he will not hate studies.JKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01010414275986799833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-69301151304875546822008-05-14T14:24:00.000+08:002008-05-14T14:24:00.000+08:00Hi ydianaWelcome! I still am not sure what to do. ...Hi ydiana<BR/>Welcome! I still am not sure what to do. I just cant sit around and smile, coz he will be making me very cross - jumping around, climbing cupboards, kicking wahtever is lying around. sometimes i think its better when i am not around!!stay-at-home mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04977522411804549074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8357812172792833667.post-59936382654901709242008-05-14T09:47:00.000+08:002008-05-14T09:47:00.000+08:00Hi!Gosh... I have the same challenge with my child...Hi!<BR/><BR/>Gosh... I have the same challenge with my children. How do we overcome that...? I guess the only way is just sit around them but smile all the way? Can we do that??<BR/><BR/>Hey, your profile almost describes moi. Hehehe...I haven't got to read your older posts yet. This is my first visit.Ydianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18124680898024472578noreply@blogger.com