Friday, October 29, 2010

What makes a successful marriage?

This was a topic on a radio show a few mornings ago.

There were suggestions such as the ability to forgive, compatibility, and not going to bed angry by some radio listeners.

Experts seem to think that successful married couples should keep their individuality, should get their deal straight (ie lay out their terms before marriage), keeping each other "centre stage", learn to dissolve conflict, must keep the lust alive, etc.

Whilst it is true, sometimes you never know what life is going to hand you. You may get a "screwball" when you least expect it, and then what happens? It wasnt in your pre-nup?

I am no expert, still learning along the way.

Which brings me to this story I once heard:

An elderly widowed woman was invited to dinner at her old friend's home. She noticed that every time her friend addressed her husband, she would start with a term of endearment: honey, darling, sweetheart, sugar bear, etc.

When the husband when into the kitchen to get the desserts, she said to her friend: "A, I am amazed at how loving you are with your husband. Even after 50 years of marriage you are addressing him so lovingly. He must love it. Is that the secret to your successful marriage?"

A replied: "To tell you the truth, I actually forgot that grumpy old man's name some 10 years ago!!"

So I think for a successful marriage, you definitely need: a good sense of humour and a poor memory.

Care to share what you think?


Stardust said...

Err.. what a difficult one today. I can't give any 2 cents worth on this. Laughs...

For now, I'm just thankful for everything. :)

iml said...

The secret to a successful marriage is to keep one ear deaf, one eye blind and his bank book safely under your pillow. Have a great weekend!

bp said...

hahaha, definitely yes, the sense of humour, and i guess the poor memory is especially useful for those give-and-take situations!

happy weekend to you and yours now!

JoMel said...


my thoughts? it helps to see your spouse through rose-tinted glasses I guess. Sure hope that won't ruin the eyes though. LOL!

stay-at-home mum said...

Haha! iml, I love your answer!

And Jo - wah! I sure need that eyesight - to keep an eye on his bank account.

bp and Stardust - hope you taking note of iml's response. LOL!

NessaKnits said...

I think the secret of a good marriage is to just stick at it. Love them, hate them, but just stick at it. 15 years married.

Alice Law said...

My secret? when he is GRUMPY, I try to be cool; later when he is COOL, I start to TELLING HIM THE TRUTH! Kiahaha, just GIVE and TAKE lar~!;)