This was a topic on a radio show a few mornings ago.
There were suggestions such as the ability to forgive, compatibility, and not going to bed angry by some radio listeners.
Experts seem to think that successful married couples should keep their individuality, should get their deal straight (ie lay out their terms before marriage), keeping each other "centre stage", learn to dissolve conflict, must keep the lust alive, etc.
Whilst it is true, sometimes you never know what life is going to hand you. You may get a "screwball" when you least expect it, and then what happens? It wasnt in your pre-nup?
I am no expert, still learning along the way.
Which brings me to this story I once heard:
An elderly widowed woman was invited to dinner at her old friend's home. She noticed that every time her friend addressed her husband, she would start with a term of endearment: honey, darling, sweetheart, sugar bear, etc.
When the husband when into the kitchen to get the desserts, she said to her friend: "A, I am amazed at how loving you are with your husband. Even after 50 years of marriage you are addressing him so lovingly. He must love it. Is that the secret to your successful marriage?"
A replied: "To tell you the truth, I actually forgot that grumpy old man's name some 10 years ago!!"
So I think for a successful marriage, you definitely need: a good sense of humour and a poor memory.
Care to share what you think?