... for me that is.
I am not sure where I have gone wrong. The hard approach doesnt work, and the soft approach is even worse!!
My son doesnt take his school work seriously, and he is already in P5. He is capable BUT lazy. IF he wants, he can do it. But he doesnt seem to want to do well. He thinks all the work the teachers give him is a waste of time. So if he can get away with it - he wont do it. Grades, I guess are NOT important to him.
And the worst nightmare for a Mum is when the teachers call to complain that your child has not been doing his work.
I really dont know what to do. Withdrawal of privileges dont work. Coporal punishment is something which I used to give him - but I know he totally resents it, and I think as they get older, I shouldnt be doling it out. The after effects of it - is that he will go to his room and sulk, and throw things about, or mess up the things in his cupboard. I know it shows Resentment. As a result, I am not using the cane, tho I threaten to.
I am at WITS end!
He is NOT a Bad or naughty boy. He is generally a lovable and well-liked boy who just cant see the importance of doing his homework!!
Does sparing the rod mean spoiling the child? or am I doing him a BIG disfavour by not giving him the cane BIG TIME??
This is really stressing me out!! HELP!!
Any ideas on what I can or should do?